Is it true that people can be cheated just because of mere physical or is there another reason?. One expert sexologists, Dr Boyke said that most cases of infidelity in a big city caused by the problem of sexuality, one party can not satisfy the other party. The factors that most often the causes of the abuse of sex is the environment including the working environment.
Like, infidelity involves many aspects, there are at least six motive why someone does infidelity,
1. Not happy with your partner. 2. Tired of the pair. 3. The challenge and adventure. 4. Material. 5, Revenge 6. Opportunity and chance.
Islam views cheating as adultery, God Almighty, hates adultery. Adultery is a despicable act which could destroy a magnificent building, bowing his head a dignified, white and blacken the face of sharp verbal silencing. Humiliation that can take off clothes of honor, such as small sample case Maria Eva. Adultery is the black dirt that can befall a family. Although earlier family life was filled with white sheets changed at once. Eyes are reluctant to look at him except what appears is something black and ugly.
God and the Prophet Mohammed PBUH has clearly forbids adultery because these deeds and bad kejinya means preface. So God forbid approach means and cause of adultery because it is the first step before it plunged into it. Allah says in Al-Isra ': 32 ie "Come not nigh to fornication, adultery actually it is a heinous act. And a bad way."
Because fornication including major sin after polytheism and murder, and including contempt actions that destroy, and a deadly crime. Rasullullah SAW said: "No one after shirk greater with Allah than a drop of semen that put a man on the uterus that is not dihalakan part.
Prohibition of adultery affirmed God in Surat Al-Furqan 68-70. "And those who do not worship another God and Allah and does not kill the soul which Allah forbidden (to kill) except with (reason) is right, and do not commit adultery. Those who do so that he would get (retaliation), sin ( her), which would be multiplied adzab for him on the Day of Resurrection. And he will be eternally in adzab was in a state of humiliation. Except those who repent, believe and do good pious. And the crimes they replaced God with virtue. And Allah is Oft-Forgiving, Merciful. "
In this verse, Allah unite fornication with envious and murder as well as make all of that will be eternal punishment in the multiple adzab. Over the servant has not been throwing the cause of doom it with repentance, faith and righteous deeds.
So God has given guidelines for his servants could survive in Surat al-Mu'minun: 1-6). Lo lucky people who believe, those who fervently in prayer, people who distance themselves from the actions and words that are not useful, and people who regular charity, and those who maintain his cock, except in his wives, then they are actually in this is not disgraceful.
So Ulema KH LDII Aceng Karimullah BE, SE invites in humans who call themselves Muslims towards the path of salvation from evil deeds. With away from acts that could lead people to destruction and bring us to the humiliation. Remember that it is actually lighter than the left immoral conduct and perform kafarohnya repentance. Himself gives ten tips to the road safety to avoid adultery.
[1] is not both-be a pair (Nyepi) among men with women who are not mahrom, either at home, in your car, anywhere. Following the Word of Allah, "It is not a man who both-be a pair with a woman, except that these three are the devil.
[2] For Muslim women, avoid Tabarruj (decorated themselves) and Sufur (not close aurat) when out of the house, therefore, lead to defamation and attract attention. Prophet said, "There are two classes of the Fire and mentioned one of them-a woman who dressed but naked and walk sideways waddle. And the clothing of the most recommended is simple abaya (black-colored clothing that covers the entire body), closing both hands and feet, and do not use perfumes. Let modeled Ummahatul Mu'minun and Shahabiyat, when out of the house they were like crows who wore black clothing, nothing of their bodies are visible.
[3] Avoiding read magazines are damaging and watch the films, which contained pornographic scenes, because it will arouse your sexual appetite and will underestimate the heinous act to call it as love and friendship, and fornication appeared to call bonds of affection that mature between a man and woman. Do not destroy your house, your heart and akalmrnu with relationships that are forbidden.
[4] He said, "And among men (any) people who use words that are not useful to mislead (men) from the Path of Allah without knowledge and to make Allah's way of derision. They were going to get adzab humiliating." (Luqman: 6). Then avoid (minimum cut) to listen to songs and music, with a rebound hiasilah pendemgaranmu holy verses Qur'an, dhikr and seek forgiveness rutinlah read, perbanyaklah dzikrul death (remember the dead), and Muhasabatun nafs (self evaluation).
[5] Fear the Most High, Mighty and Knowing nothing is hidden. This is the most high fear that keep someone from doing immoral. Suppose that when you slip on fornication, then bagamana if if it should be known by your father, your mother, your brothers, kinsmen or your husband / istrirmu? In view of the fruit of their lips and when you die, they will treat you as an adulterer, na'udzu billahi dzalik min.
[6] Looking for a pious or sholehah friends who are always ready to help and assist you, because man is weak while the devil is ready to pounce on it anywhere and anytime. Avoid bad friends, because he will come to you like a thief who entered clandestinely steal until he menggelincirkanmu chance on something that is forbidden.
[7] Expand to pray, because the Prophet's people including people who always read a lot of prayer and seek forgiveness.
[8] is not allowed leisure time passed except by reading the Qur'an. Trying to memorize what is easy from the Koran. If you have a high spirit, join a group Tahfidzul Quran. Because if you are not busy with obedience and worship, then you will be preoccupied by kebathilan.
[9] Keep in mind that you will leave this world with the pages that you have written all the days of your life. When lernbaran-sheet was filled with devotion and worship, then bergernbiralah. And if the contrary, immediately repent before he died. Because of that doomsday is the day of regret. Allah says, "And give them a warning about the day of regret." (Maiyam: 39). That is the opening day of all things hidden) and sheets flying. Days in which a breastfeeding mother forget her child he was feed.
[10] Be careful using the phone, not to plunge many people, men and women, in the act of adultery. So be not you be one of those who become victims. And know that God will give you a way out, and salvation from him. (*)
As for other tips:
1. Open. Honesty is the key to avoid adultery. Share feelings with your partner and always support each other. 2. Proximity. Create and maintain emotional and sexual intimacy with a partner. The closer you are, you are getting stronger too. 3. Smart. Do not get stuck on the satisfaction, man does not escape from temptation. 4. Beware. When you feel attracted to someone, immediately take the distance before it appears deeper feelings. 5. Keep the attitude. If you find yourself easily make people tempted, remember, if you do not want to burn, do not be playing with fire.
In light of religion, rampant infidelity can be considered as an indication of the depletion of our communities of faith and devotion which he said "relegius society." globalization era, as now, did the things that are religious often "terbenamkan" by the things of this world. Hopefully this paper useful for that read, Amen.
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